What will you do when you are older?

Will you keep your parent(s) at home with you, or send them to a facility to be taken care of?

I am certain that my sister and I will share responsibility, and take turns in hosting our parents, never letting them feel that they are a burden.

What about you?

    

I respect my parents the most in this world because they are the ones who have given sacrifices for their child's facilities.Parents are most lovable in this world for their child.I will surely offer my services to my old parents till their last breath and always like to see them smiling.Parents must not be sent to the old age homes because it is your duty to serve your parents in old age and complete one of your responsibilities.Always love and respect your parents.

Hey, Vandy!
I hope you retain this thought till the time your parents actually do get old.
I know some people who thought this when they were young as well, but as they got older, they felt that their parents became a burden.
They claim that they 'were left with no choice'!

My mother has a different thought. She has already asked me to keep her in an old age home where she can freely mix with people and do activities.So that she does not get bored. Also asked me to buy a music system and a rocking chair.

I think it really depends on the parent and whether or not you can afford it. Does the parent have insurance to pay for the stay at the facility? You know, some of these facilities are fancy! They provide all kinds of fun activities such as swimming, exercise facilities, dancing class, arts in crafts. So don't feel guilty if you have to send your loved one to a facility.
Personally, I wouldn't put my mom in an old folks home. My dad is no longer with us so my mom is alone. She's still young enough to take care of herself but once she no longer is able to care for herself, she knows that she'll be able to live with us. The same goes for my in-laws.

My siblings and I would gladly take care of our parents should they need it someday (they're only in their 50s now). My grandmother lived in a retirement community before she died, and it really was a nice place. They planned a lot of fun activities for the seniors.

I tried to get my foster mother to live with us but she wanted to stay in California.She had given an aunt of mine power of attorney so she made the choices.Mom was put in a home.It really upset me,but she adjusted and did well.She even would try to help the other residents.So I suppose it depends on your situation and if it's left up to you or not.

I'd ask my parents first where they want to be when they grow older..

My parents have both made it clear that they do not want to be in an assisted living or nursing home. So, I will do whatever I can to take care of them myself. They took care of me all these years, so I guess I can return the favor.

I live in an area where a lot of elderly people reside on their own. I feel sorry for a lot of them. Their kids have married and moved out of state and rarely visit. I see them struggle when they go grocery shopping, some drive when they shouldn't be driving, and they struggle with everyday activities. I give them a lot of credit for being so self-sufficient, but some really need to be cared for by their kids or live somewhere where they can be assisted.

Some though amaze me. They do things people half their age can't do. I guess it really depends on your parents and what condition they are in when they get older. Both my grandmothers are still alive, but are cared for by at least one family member at a time. Everyone takes turns.