9 months after my son was born, my husband and I began to try to have another. It's been almost more than 10 years and we have never been able to conceive again.
In the beginning, I went to my doctor but he told he wouldn't test me until my husband got tested first. Hubby refused. I went to another doctor and was told the same thing and hubby refused again.
I don't want to have children anymore (my son will be 12 in a few months and I don't want to start all over again...I wanted the kids to grow up together) but I've always been curious as to why I couldn't get pregnant again.
Any ideas what could've gone wrong? I don't expect a diagnosis...I'm just wondering if you all could share your opinions.
Thanks

    

Wow, that's an amazing story. Usually, when women can't concieve after birth, it's usually due to the woman having breastfed since breastfeeding hinders ovulation for the first few months following birth. However, to be infertile for years afterwards is just strange. Did you ever have a doctor examine to make sure that everything was okay with your system? And why did your husband refuse to get tested?

It is odd especially since the women in my family are so fertile. Hubby didn't want to get tested because he was afraid it was his fault. I guess it's a macho thing.
I recently had a complete physical (had an ultrasound and everything) but all was fine with me. So it's probably hubby...but I guess we'll never find out for sure.

Have you ever considered in vitro fertilization? There is such a high success rate with in vitro? There are some unconventional ways of getting pregnant that could work for you.

I am really sorry to hear what you went through.

Also, how old are you now? I bet that it's not too late to stop trying. I recently read about a woman who had a kid at age 47, so never give up. What treatments have you done so far?

Weight gain can be a culprit. Many women I know that are overweight have a hard time conceiving a child. Being overweight can affect ovulation-causing problems for women that are TTC. Also having extra fat tissue can also lead to excessive estrogen production. This naturally causes imbalanced hormones.

It's not all up to women though... Overweight men, or men that do not get enough exercise can end up with a low sperm count.

I am not sure of your situation as far as weight, but I wanted to throw that out there. I read a lot about this, mainly because I am dealing with my own woman's health issues now. I was actually just going to do a post about pregnancy and weight loss/gain and then I read this.

I'm 32 year old so I still have time. I haven't had any treatments done because I gave up after 2 doctors told me they needed to check my husband first (I was told women have to go through a ton of testing and some of it is painful...so it's better to check hubby first because it could save me a lot of trouble).
As for my weight, I don't have any weight problems. I did put on A LOT of weight right after I got married but I lost all the weight before I had my son. I've been able to keep it off and haven't gained a pound since. I am not underweight either. I eat right, don't starve myself, exercise, and do whatever I need to do to stay healthy. I did get sick right after the birth of my son. I didn't go to the doctor because my son got sick on the same day of my appointment so I canceled mine and took him to see his doctor and I just never made the appointment ( I got better after a week so I thought it was normal for women to get sick like that right after giving birth). I always wonder if maybe that's what messed me up. I think it may have been an infection because I was hallucinating and I had the shakes (I was so cold that I was shivering like crazy then I"d get hot and then cold again).

Yes, you are right-you still have plenty of time. I don't know if the sickness had anything to do with you not being able to conceive again, but I do know our bodies sometimes seem to work in mysterious ways. Luckily for you and your husband, you were blessed with a baby boy already. Hopefully one day you will be blessed again with another baby boy... or girl.

I'm an infertility survivor (1 DD from IVF in 2007) and I have some thoughts on your situation.

1.Go to a specialist, a reproductive endocrinologist. Your regular doc does not have the expertise. You say you had a physical, did they measure ALL your hormone levels? Did they do a day 3 check of your FSH level? Were you evaluated for a luteal phase defect? If no, then you have not received a complete physical.

2.Check yourself for a luteal phase defect. Get an OPK and track when you ovulate, then track when you first start bleeding. I forget the exact number of days, but something like 10 or less days between ovulation and bleeding will cause early miscarriage due to insufficient progesterone production. A luteal phase defect is incredibly common.

3.Men are infertile about 40% of the time which is HUGE. It doesn't sound like you guys are really into having more kids, but if that changes he will have to get tested. No reputable physician will move forward without knowing your DH's sperm count.

4.Even if your husband is the one who is infertile, you still have to get all those tests. No reputable physician will move forward with expensive and invasive treatments without knowing the exact fertility status of both parties.

Resolve.org or ivfconnections.com may be good resources. If you ever decide to have more children, please seek out a good reproductive endocrinologist.

HTH
V

I think that's very unusual but on the bright side you already have a baby!

Hormone levels and sperm quality do change. So maybe that's just that. I wonder what you were sick with after you gave birth. I never heard of a one-week sickness that causes women to be infertile.