I have noticed that on the birth of second child,the behaviour of elder one becomes abnormal.Feeling of insecurity takes place in his/her mind as parents give their main attention to the new born baby.Although its not the fact that parents ignore their elder one but the mind of children is so sensitive and they think negative towards his/her parent's attitude.
In this case,what should the parents do to make their child satisfied?

    

Parents should spend some time alone with the first born. Also the older child can help the parent in taking care of the baby whenever possible.

It is important to take note to how the first child is feeling and reacting as this can spiral out of control if not dealt with.

In most cases, this happens due to the older child feeling he/she will no longer be the "Fav", will be pushed aside, will not get any attention anymore. This is normal and it can be fixed right away. The good thing, is that you are recognizing the behavior change right away.

The first thing you need to do, is sit down with your first child, without the new baby, and talk to him/her. Explain how much you love him/her, how much his/her new baby sibling is going to need his/her help and how much you need his/her help. Be sure to allow your child to express his/her feelings and thoughts. DO NOT justify or argue any of it, show you understand, you care and offer support to his/her feelings.

The second this you need to do, is get your first child involved! Allow him/her to help with diaper changing diapers, feeding, cuddling, dressing, etc.

The third thing, keep your communication and closeness with your first! MAKE time for him/her that is quality time and maybe not with the new baby.

The last thing, this is important too - Make sure you always tell the first child, how much the new baby loves him/her, looks like him/her and needs him/her. Let that child know how the "BIG" brother/sister is needed and important.

This is so important to ensure there are no hard feelings or hate/revenge from the older child to the younger. You want them to be close so it is important to start that closeness right now!

Good luck to you!

Coach Ann

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