Hi V,
You and I are in very similar situations. Good to see another "cyster" here. Gosh, I could write a book on my PCOS experiences, but it would probably bore everyone to death. lol
I too can not take metformin-in my case it made me extremely ill. I was on bc pills for so long that I started to have problems...couldn't take them anymore. I stopped taking meds years ago and basically have been dealing with all the symptoms since---all of them.
I now lack health insurance and am trying to get everything under control with diet and home remedies. I go on low cal diets, I don't lose anything. I also lose weight on low carbs diets but honestly, I am miserable when I do them. I am in the same position you are-it is hard! I now am starting to just watch what I eat and keep moving. I am not limiting myself too much-we'll see how it goes.
Don't you love how we get the-"lose weight and you will be fine" speeches? If we could-I am sure we would. Having PCOS and insulin resistance makes it uh, just a little bit hard to do.
I too am looking for answers. Hopefully we will get them soon.